SELF – confidence Booster

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My advise would be stop and ask yourself what do you want? What are you exactly looking for! Most of the time we are confused. We get more confused when we start finding random things which get aligned with our confused thoughts. Simple things are loosing its fragrance, which actually fills your life with love, peace and oneness.

As an individual many of us are okay to miss out on those simple things i.e mindful breathing, spending sometime alone, giving opportunity to the child inside to be mischievous, having breakfast on time, keeping the stuff back on its place, counting the stars at night.  You can think of all those simple things that you like and frequently ignore doing it.

You constantly work hard, during appraisals you put in more than what you could have possibly thought of, you tend to push the extra mile and finally you see the result. You achieve either a promotion, salary hike or a new job. Awesome as it sounds. Likewise you try to put in efforts to your relationship based on your respective status. You invest time, money, emotions and finally you achieve a beautiful family. It makes me happy to see what you all are achieving.

However, let me ask? No you don’t have to reply back. Honestly, think over and reply to yourself: Are you really happy from inside? Are you happy with your relationship? Are you happy with your job? And are you happy with your mental health?

You still have a lot of room for improvement. Just because you can push yourself as per your need to achieve whatever you want. If you are able to manage then its awesome; if you honestly feel you are! How long will be the question?

This is my personal observation; all the parents want the best of the world for their kids. However they just want it! The Life-Skills that they learnt from parents is a hindrance; the ergonomics learnt from parents is a hindrance and as a parent you can figure out the eating habits, addiction of gadgets, obesity..…when it gets too late; then starts the blame-game (i guess it is at an unconscious level) to justify the action. It’s very easy to point fingers and blame. However it requires balls to accept and change. Sooner or later every individual before dying repents for something or the other. Naked facts of life. Where do you see yourself!

Attention required: why? Just to press a panic button and make you realize. If you can achieve as per your need, then you should learn to organize yourself. This will save you from pushing yourself hard, every now and then.

As a trained martial artist we have developed and designed a SELF-confidence module which is an amalgamation of martial arts and meditation. Tried, tested and successful. Human Body needs to be healthy at all levels to function properly. This is the most under rated and ignored fact of life, yet ironically its the reality. As the name suggests SELF-confidence it purely narrows down to SELF of the individual and this is how we attempt to make an impact. We work on your body, strength, patience, endurance, mind and try to touch your SELF. This module specifically addresses few common as well important issues which are psychological as well physiological in nature. Positive spillovers have been recorded. Customized curriculum is designed as per the requirements. Let me tell you this module is not so rude on your body. However it will try to push you further and make you realize your potential. A perfect blend of different flavors curated only for the serious takers who would like to make life easier for themselves and as well for the future generation.

Love yourself
Cheers,
Anand

 

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Gender Equality

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Love conducting free online self-defense training workshops for women/girls. However, we limit this to 3 or 5 individuals who are highly motivated.  In future too this practice will be continued. If you want to take up our free workshop keep an eye on our Instagram / Twitter for the upcoming dates.

We have developed an unique ‘SELF-confidence Booster’ module which is an amalgamation of martial arts and meditation. One of the best way to stay healthy and connected. Keeps your energies high. Daily practice will enhance the productivity of the individual and at the same time keep them humble and grounded. The curriculum is being tweaked as per the needs of participants. Customized curriculum helps to address the root cause of the issues. This module has got numerous positive spill over. Data has shown; participants with improved communication skills, improved life-style and most important imparting training to their siblings and parents. We have different workshops spread across as per the need of the individuals. In these years of imparting training we have observed a significant positive spill over. The girls under training; have trained their mother and siblings.

Taking it further ahead, we plan to start ‘Train the Trainer’ program. Motivated women/girls who want to be a part of this initiative can contact us.


I am available at my LinkedIn profile.  Will be happy to connect with you, train you and interact with you.

Cheers,


Anand

Introducing something really cool

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With Aparna Saxena at UN Women Singapore Office

 

Systematic and mindful training is required to make the human body strong. Every body part has a specific need and accordingly it should be trained. There are many health-professionals who are constantly providing their unique health services. However, personally I feel that Human Mind is the most crucial element. Until you feed it with positive vibes and good energy you would not enjoy to the fullest.

If mind is not exercised then: Outwardly you would be strong, fit, rich, and famous but inside; deep within – you would be miserable and fake. You would suffer from jealousy, anger, depression, stress and will not have honest relationships. That’s not life man!

Gradually with time we start taking many things for granted. Creating and inviting problems for self. Our mind is weak; it’s not stable and always has the tendency to fall down. No one is teaching you how to keep your mind pepped up! We don’t know the required mechanism to lift our mind and keep it motivated.

The first thing required to counter all the negative thoughts is to counter back with a positive thought. This habit doesn’t come easy, however if you want to grow in life, feel happy about yourself then better learn this before life teaches you.

Hint – practice constant remembrance!

Our self-defense workshops tries to make the individual mindful and create awareness. Workshops have a unique curriculum that involves meditation, ergonomics, mindful breathing and self-defense. This has indeed received good response. 

We have a customized curriculum that runs for 10 days / 1 month / 6 months and for 1 year. These workshops bring about physiological as well psychological changes among the participants. One of our projects Mission 1000 is specifically designed only for the women and girls from disadvantage community. These workshops are conducted by our non-profit organization Colorss FoundationThese workshops are FREE for the participants.

In November 2016, Mission 1000 was in the Finals of Project Inspire, joint initiative from the Singapore Committee for UN Women and MasterCard, to help young change-makers create a better world for women and girls in Asia Pacific. Knowledge Partner, INSEAD, awarded us with full scholarships to INSEAD’s Social Entrepreneurship Programme (ISEP).

Out of 200 participants we were in top 10. Our objective is very clear to bring about psychological and psychological changes among the participants. Specifically, train the women. 

Our workshop gradually makes the individual quick, fast and powerful. The eye-hand coordination needs to be quick and fast. All these learning are useless, if mind is not ready to learn or accept changes happening around you. Recognize one thing, all the required responses to attack, block, run, defend, being alert and shout is given my mind. If the mind freezes then all the training goes in vain. Constant practice is required to keep the body-mind connected.

We have introduced something really cool and encouraging. We wish to give our participants an opportunity to utilize the knowledge acquired: be a part of giving back to the society. We train women/girls from disadvantage community in self-defense for free. Participate as a volunteer, revise what you learnt and see for yourself who got the opportunity to get trained when you got yourself trained. Buy 1 Gift 1 Is’t this cool!

We have trained more than 2000 women and children. As a trained martial artist 2nd Dan Black belt in Karate, Green Belt in Kubodo [Weapon System].

No rocket-science stuff. The day when you take the decision to live your own life, you would realize what you had been missing! Contact us for customized workshops. 

Life is Simple
Keep it Simple

Cheers,
Anand      

There is no place other than road to run!

runners-751853_1280.jpgFeel happy to see the steady rise of health conscious people.  They are into many things, which keep them healthy. Fitness is moving to a different level.  I see them walking, jogging, cycling, gyming, cross-fit, yoga, strength training, endurance and so many more. This really makes me feel happy, as personally am a self-defence trainer and a health conscious individual.

What I had been noticing and observing is that most of the joggers are jogging on the road with the on-going vehicular traffic! My concern is specifically for the early morning joggers and cyclist who are out on fitness journey before sun-rise, in near pitch-darkness. They are rarely visible jogging on the road. During monsoon season it’s a challenge, the drivers need to be more vigilant to identify the presence of humans on road specifically at early hours.

Okay, there is no place other than road to run! I can understand, there is no harm to be on the road. However, how safe is it!

I have closely observed joggers running opposite traffic direction so that the driver can see their little hands moving here and there – asking them move aside and not to run-over them. At the same time, they are cautious, alert and in a position to run off the road if the driver miss seeing you. The anxiety, stress and extra alertness are clearly seen on the face of the joggers.

My question would be to the health conscious people – joggers – walkers and cyclist. Does this stress help you when you are out there to stay healthy?

The simple solution would be to educate and use common sense. Rather than keeping your mind alert. Get reflectors, glow in darkness, choose your freedom, and enjoy your workouts.

It would really make things easier for the joggers and as well for the drivers if certain precautions are taken care. The joggers and cyclists should wear radium/ light reflecting clothes which can discover your presence on road at such an hour, when no one else is on the road.

Your workout gear needs to be bright, fluorescent and must reflect! Don’t go for black, grey or brown attire which would absorb light and make you feel sexy.

The gym owners, marathon runners, health conscious people should encourage them about safety and how to be visibly visible when on road. You are a health conscious individual sweating out to be healthy. Enjoy it and be mindful about being safe. Train hard and be smart.

Cheers

Love & Luck

Love & Luck or is it Luck & Love

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We as Indians are God fearing human beings, Spiritually inclined and celebrating all the festivals with utmost enthusiasm and flavor.  The trend of passing the culture and heritage from one family generation to the other is slowly declining. The fast paced life, pressure and stress can be a reason? What do you think?

However, personally for me its a mere excuse to label – the fact stands clear and loud; am not efficient enough to manage my time, work and family.  Acceptance has not yet developed and with time we are not ready to change. If you think deeply, as a person you have not changed. You are getting dragged into this fast pace demanding life. Like a puppet you are dancing on the tunes of your boss or your company responsibilities. You are acting as per the situation needs. Let me tell bluntly you are a bad actor. 

You as your own ‘self’ is no longer living! You do not have ownership on yourself.  We are ashamed to accept YES, I am inefficient to manage my life. We immediately label it across – on traffic, work pressure, stress, pollution, food, family problems, karma etc etc

Love & Luck or Luck & Love

We love playing with words and have something in-store as a lucky charm. I too have a lucky charm :P.  Need of a shoulder!

Lets not get into the in-depth of the issues, reasons and justifications. Its one of those factors which needs to be tackled tactfully. This is not the case with everyone, however many of us are in this phase of life. Unclear, confused, depressed, lonely and helpless – yet have a BIG FAT EGO.

Learn to change with time, evolve yourself with the demands. If we learn to do so, then our culture, heritage and family life would blossom. Even if time demands you to have nuclear family for job. It would not burn your heart permanently. As you are evolving with time. Once this is cultivated, distance is mere a number. 

Start practicing yoga, meditation and spend time with yourself. Take out two hours of pure dedicated time of your day for this. These will help you to keep your body-mind-soul synchronized.  Most of us do it and yet are not able to feel the difference. In this case and to everyone – You have to feel it and do it with dedication. Don’t mix it with other duties of your life. Do not compromise and for once be honest to yourself. You need to cultivate strong determination and have devotion.  If done correctly then you would be able to manage stress, obesity, work pressure, enjoy family relationship, have healthy social life and gracefully carry forward the culture and heritage. There are numerous positive spill overs.

The best is; once you learn to control your mind – your life would be in your control.

Once you start, within a week to three months [depending upon person to person] you can automatically feel the difference. Be honest! Let me tell you, Honesty is priceless. Every Tom, Dick and Harry doesn’t have this! Rest its your choice – you are the boss.

Cheers,

For Love,

Anand

 

Power of Mind

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I had been repeatedly focusing upon the Human Mind as its the most unpredictable thing. This quote is a constant reminder to be alert and not feed the mind with negative thoughts.

Human Mind is unpredictable; after all nothing is permanent ~ Koti

Human body has many unconscious processes which are not felt by the individual. These can be broadly put down for better understanding and relating to what I am trying to say:

  • Breathing – many of you do not know that you are breathing or the mere importance of breathing. In deep sleep you are not aware of your breath, your body, place and time
  • Eye hand coordination – the way the eyes and hand coordinate in sync
  • Hand – Leg coordination – while walking or running the beautiful coordination of Hand-Leg

so on and so forth.. These are few unconscious bodily movements which are happening irrespective of your conscious efforts to regulate it.

Deep inside your body there are numerous processes which are taking place constantly – digestion of food, regeneration of cells and muscles, relaxation of body, releasing of hormones for better health, hair growth, nail growth you name it and its happening inside your body.

This entire hard work gets affected if your little mind starts throwing tantrums. Human Mind which is the most powerful has the capacity to make you feel – happy, sad, gives you an electrifying feeling, boost up your motivation, puts you in depression, makes you a leader, makes you feel a looser, makes you think the world has come to an end, makes you feel you are the most blessed, makes you feel you are the best of best and what not.

The choice and option is within – think positive be positive

We behave in a manner which is directed by the little mind and the situations around. The mind needs to be trained and controlled. Yet, we are wasting our time on looking physically good, smart, beautiful, build up muscles, tone up tummy, six pack, hour-glass figure and the list goes on and on and on. The beauty is inside you, feel it and start living it. The day you start controlling your MIND and STOP entertaining negative thoughts you would soon find peace within, you would feel oneness and automatically you would start loving yourself. Many positive spill over are gradually seen and reflected by the individual who starts working on his own MIND. Being positive is not difficult, it needs efforts. It needs discipline, dedication and determination.

We are trapped in MAYA and it constantly pulls us down, makes us compare, makes us feel low and it does everything possible to make us feel miserable. However, once you realize the importance of being positive, importance of meditation, importance of doing SEVA, importance of helping others without any selfish interest, and importance of GOD you would gradually understand how the MIND can be controlled.

We are individuals with half-knowledge and [ass|u|me] things on our own beliefs. Start focusing and be clear – you need to train your mind. For success, for better relationships, for handling pressure and stress, for happiness and to serve everyone with love.

Don’t entertain negative thoughts – kick them up before they come near yourself. Meditate, spend time with positive people, spend time alone, focus on mindful breathing, enjoy the bliss of stasang and pray to the almighty GOD.

For Love,
Anand

www.anandkoti.com

 

Communication – goof-ups

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The biggest challenge for we humans is to have cordial relationship with other humans 😛  – Joke – no way – think for yourself – its a fact. All other challenges are manageable. However, managing every other person apart from the ‘self’ is the most toughest job. 

To maintain a cordial relationship we need to communicate – to communicate we need to LISTEN and TALK.

Many-a-times most of us regret – Oh! I should have not said that!  But then, its too late.
Yes, I too have made blunders on this challenging aspect. With time and practice am improving myself and its not difficult.

Tongue is an awesome muscle and it loves to create ripples. Controlling it is difficult!!! Hey, wait.. what all should we control. Mind – Heart – EGO and now Tongue —> the deadly combination of these makes communication so very complex.

The way we think and respond has got multiple blindspots:

– we communicate something else – but we meant something else
– we think something and say something else
– we think something and write something else
– we mean something and our content means something else
– we think and communicate and ‘ass’u’me’ you understood, what i meant?
– we complicate communication only by thinking too much about what needs to be communicated
– we stop communicating if we are angry, stressed out, pissed off or frustrated
– we stop communicating and again ‘ass’u’me’ you understood, why I did!
– we screwed up something and to avoid circumstance we stop communicating
  phew and the list goes on and on – would love to hear about communication challenges

The complex nature of communication related issues increases as you grow up in life and have more responsibilities to manage. This is a life-long learning process and will end with the last breath of your life 🙂 cheeky is’t it!

This list is exhaustive but every problem has a solution. Listening is the most crucial part of communication; to be clear – listening and understanding the other person before talking needs to be practiced on a regular basis

–  Keep practicing and never give up:-
–  Listen properly before you talk
–  choose the right word to describe your thoughts
–  be calm and composed when you communicate
–  use simple and easy sentences to convey yourself
–  make sure you cross-check on the details conveyed and they understood you properly
–  stop ASSUMING —else you would end up making an ‘ASS’ – ‘U’ – ‘ME’
–  communicate your thoughts then and there and do not delay it. Thoughts communicated during the on-going program, workshops, discussions, situations… are easier to correlate and understand
–  Start practicing meditation and keep your mind calm
–  Do not react – be responsive
–  Think before you talk
–  Learn to accept your mistake and don’t shy way to say Sorry

With a mindful eye, dedicatedly keep practicing. You would soon better up with your own communication style.

Cheers