Communication – goof-ups

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The biggest challenge for we humans is to have cordial relationship with other humans 😛  – Joke – no way – think for yourself – its a fact. All other challenges are manageable. However, managing every other person apart from the ‘self’ is the most toughest job. 

To maintain a cordial relationship we need to communicate – to communicate we need to LISTEN and TALK.

Many-a-times most of us regret – Oh! I should have not said that!  But then, its too late.
Yes, I too have made blunders on this challenging aspect. With time and practice am improving myself and its not difficult.

Tongue is an awesome muscle and it loves to create ripples. Controlling it is difficult!!! Hey, wait.. what all should we control. Mind – Heart – EGO and now Tongue —> the deadly combination of these makes communication so very complex.

The way we think and respond has got multiple blindspots:

– we communicate something else – but we meant something else
– we think something and say something else
– we think something and write something else
– we mean something and our content means something else
– we think and communicate and ‘ass’u’me’ you understood, what i meant?
– we complicate communication only by thinking too much about what needs to be communicated
– we stop communicating if we are angry, stressed out, pissed off or frustrated
– we stop communicating and again ‘ass’u’me’ you understood, why I did!
– we screwed up something and to avoid circumstance we stop communicating
  phew and the list goes on and on – would love to hear about communication challenges

The complex nature of communication related issues increases as you grow up in life and have more responsibilities to manage. This is a life-long learning process and will end with the last breath of your life 🙂 cheeky is’t it!

This list is exhaustive but every problem has a solution. Listening is the most crucial part of communication; to be clear – listening and understanding the other person before talking needs to be practiced on a regular basis

–  Keep practicing and never give up:-
–  Listen properly before you talk
–  choose the right word to describe your thoughts
–  be calm and composed when you communicate
–  use simple and easy sentences to convey yourself
–  make sure you cross-check on the details conveyed and they understood you properly
–  stop ASSUMING —else you would end up making an ‘ASS’ – ‘U’ – ‘ME’
–  communicate your thoughts then and there and do not delay it. Thoughts communicated during the on-going program, workshops, discussions, situations… are easier to correlate and understand
–  Start practicing meditation and keep your mind calm
–  Do not react – be responsive
–  Think before you talk
–  Learn to accept your mistake and don’t shy way to say Sorry

With a mindful eye, dedicatedly keep practicing. You would soon better up with your own communication style.

Cheers

‘Self’ + Defense – The need of the hour!

The Anand Koti team has been conducting self-defense workshops for several years now, and we too have discovered a lot of things from our learners and their personal experiences. This is why we believe and have incorporated meditation, breathing and ergonomics along with self defense to help of our individual body; lets not forget  all of these requires the power of our mind. If we don’t think precisely under unexpected circumstances then we cannot guide our body in an accurate manner to strike back.

So every time when we organize a self defense workshop we make sure that we interact with all the participants on a personal level. This is because we want to get rid of any sort of psychological inhibitions they might have, which will automatically help them become comfortable and confident. We urge all our participants to ask questions and share stories so that we can grow together as a gender friendly community as well as improve our combating techniques and methods.

Recently we received an opportunity to conduct a self-defense workshop for working women. This led us to explore some beautiful insights. One of the greatest take away from the feedback session was that many learners were overwhelmed by the amount of knowledge that could be learnt under just an hour. They were thrilled by how the issue of women safety can be tackled with a number of practical and effective skills.

During the response session we also found an interesting piece of information about how women carry pepper sprays and Swiss knives to deal with such unprecedented situations. And there is nothing wrong with that, but as much as we need weapons to protect us, we need to be aware of the fact that our bodies are weapons too. All one needs to do is to learn certain fundamental skills that can help anyone during troubled times.

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With persistent dialogue with all our clients and friends, we strive to make a better future. If you want to connect with us to gain additional information about self-defense workshops, please mail us at koti@anandkoti.com

~ Tejal Pednekar