SELF – confidence Booster

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My advise would be stop and ask yourself what do you want? What are you exactly looking for! Most of the time we are confused. We get more confused when we start finding random things which get aligned with our confused thoughts. Simple things are loosing its fragrance, which actually fills your life with love, peace and oneness.

As an individual many of us are okay to miss out on those simple things i.e mindful breathing, spending sometime alone, giving opportunity to the child inside to be mischievous, having breakfast on time, keeping the stuff back on its place, counting the stars at night.  You can think of all those simple things that you like and frequently ignore doing it.

You constantly work hard, during appraisals you put in more than what you could have possibly thought of, you tend to push the extra mile and finally you see the result. You achieve either a promotion, salary hike or a new job. Awesome as it sounds. Likewise you try to put in efforts to your relationship based on your respective status. You invest time, money, emotions and finally you achieve a beautiful family. It makes me happy to see what you all are achieving.

However, let me ask? No you don’t have to reply back. Honestly, think over and reply to yourself: Are you really happy from inside? Are you happy with your relationship? Are you happy with your job? And are you happy with your mental health?

You still have a lot of room for improvement. Just because you can push yourself as per your need to achieve whatever you want. If you are able to manage then its awesome; if you honestly feel you are! How long will be the question?

This is my personal observation; all the parents want the best of the world for their kids. However they just want it! The Life-Skills that they learnt from parents is a hindrance; the ergonomics learnt from parents is a hindrance and as a parent you can figure out the eating habits, addiction of gadgets, obesity..…when it gets too late; then starts the blame-game (i guess it is at an unconscious level) to justify the action. It’s very easy to point fingers and blame. However it requires balls to accept and change. Sooner or later every individual before dying repents for something or the other. Naked facts of life. Where do you see yourself!

Attention required: why? Just to press a panic button and make you realize. If you can achieve as per your need, then you should learn to organize yourself. This will save you from pushing yourself hard, every now and then.

As a trained martial artist we have developed and designed a SELF-confidence module which is an amalgamation of martial arts and meditation. Tried, tested and successful. Human Body needs to be healthy at all levels to function properly. This is the most under rated and ignored fact of life, yet ironically its the reality. As the name suggests SELF-confidence it purely narrows down to SELF of the individual and this is how we attempt to make an impact. We work on your body, strength, patience, endurance, mind and try to touch your SELF. This module specifically addresses few common as well important issues which are psychological as well physiological in nature. Positive spillovers have been recorded. Customized curriculum is designed as per the requirements. Let me tell you this module is not so rude on your body. However it will try to push you further and make you realize your potential. A perfect blend of different flavors curated only for the serious takers who would like to make life easier for themselves and as well for the future generation.

Love yourself
Cheers,
Anand

 

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Love & Luck

Love & Luck or is it Luck & Love

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We as Indians are God fearing human beings, Spiritually inclined and celebrating all the festivals with utmost enthusiasm and flavor.  The trend of passing the culture and heritage from one family generation to the other is slowly declining. The fast paced life, pressure and stress can be a reason? What do you think?

However, personally for me its a mere excuse to label – the fact stands clear and loud; am not efficient enough to manage my time, work and family.  Acceptance has not yet developed and with time we are not ready to change. If you think deeply, as a person you have not changed. You are getting dragged into this fast pace demanding life. Like a puppet you are dancing on the tunes of your boss or your company responsibilities. You are acting as per the situation needs. Let me tell bluntly you are a bad actor. 

You as your own ‘self’ is no longer living! You do not have ownership on yourself.  We are ashamed to accept YES, I am inefficient to manage my life. We immediately label it across – on traffic, work pressure, stress, pollution, food, family problems, karma etc etc

Love & Luck or Luck & Love

We love playing with words and have something in-store as a lucky charm. I too have a lucky charm :P.  Need of a shoulder!

Lets not get into the in-depth of the issues, reasons and justifications. Its one of those factors which needs to be tackled tactfully. This is not the case with everyone, however many of us are in this phase of life. Unclear, confused, depressed, lonely and helpless – yet have a BIG FAT EGO.

Learn to change with time, evolve yourself with the demands. If we learn to do so, then our culture, heritage and family life would blossom. Even if time demands you to have nuclear family for job. It would not burn your heart permanently. As you are evolving with time. Once this is cultivated, distance is mere a number. 

Start practicing yoga, meditation and spend time with yourself. Take out two hours of pure dedicated time of your day for this. These will help you to keep your body-mind-soul synchronized.  Most of us do it and yet are not able to feel the difference. In this case and to everyone – You have to feel it and do it with dedication. Don’t mix it with other duties of your life. Do not compromise and for once be honest to yourself. You need to cultivate strong determination and have devotion.  If done correctly then you would be able to manage stress, obesity, work pressure, enjoy family relationship, have healthy social life and gracefully carry forward the culture and heritage. There are numerous positive spill overs.

The best is; once you learn to control your mind – your life would be in your control.

Once you start, within a week to three months [depending upon person to person] you can automatically feel the difference. Be honest! Let me tell you, Honesty is priceless. Every Tom, Dick and Harry doesn’t have this! Rest its your choice – you are the boss.

Cheers,

For Love,

Anand

 

Power of Mind

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I had been repeatedly focusing upon the Human Mind as its the most unpredictable thing. This quote is a constant reminder to be alert and not feed the mind with negative thoughts.

Human Mind is unpredictable; after all nothing is permanent ~ Koti

Human body has many unconscious processes which are not felt by the individual. These can be broadly put down for better understanding and relating to what I am trying to say:

  • Breathing – many of you do not know that you are breathing or the mere importance of breathing. In deep sleep you are not aware of your breath, your body, place and time
  • Eye hand coordination – the way the eyes and hand coordinate in sync
  • Hand – Leg coordination – while walking or running the beautiful coordination of Hand-Leg

so on and so forth.. These are few unconscious bodily movements which are happening irrespective of your conscious efforts to regulate it.

Deep inside your body there are numerous processes which are taking place constantly – digestion of food, regeneration of cells and muscles, relaxation of body, releasing of hormones for better health, hair growth, nail growth you name it and its happening inside your body.

This entire hard work gets affected if your little mind starts throwing tantrums. Human Mind which is the most powerful has the capacity to make you feel – happy, sad, gives you an electrifying feeling, boost up your motivation, puts you in depression, makes you a leader, makes you feel a looser, makes you think the world has come to an end, makes you feel you are the most blessed, makes you feel you are the best of best and what not.

The choice and option is within – think positive be positive

We behave in a manner which is directed by the little mind and the situations around. The mind needs to be trained and controlled. Yet, we are wasting our time on looking physically good, smart, beautiful, build up muscles, tone up tummy, six pack, hour-glass figure and the list goes on and on and on. The beauty is inside you, feel it and start living it. The day you start controlling your MIND and STOP entertaining negative thoughts you would soon find peace within, you would feel oneness and automatically you would start loving yourself. Many positive spill over are gradually seen and reflected by the individual who starts working on his own MIND. Being positive is not difficult, it needs efforts. It needs discipline, dedication and determination.

We are trapped in MAYA and it constantly pulls us down, makes us compare, makes us feel low and it does everything possible to make us feel miserable. However, once you realize the importance of being positive, importance of meditation, importance of doing SEVA, importance of helping others without any selfish interest, and importance of GOD you would gradually understand how the MIND can be controlled.

We are individuals with half-knowledge and [ass|u|me] things on our own beliefs. Start focusing and be clear – you need to train your mind. For success, for better relationships, for handling pressure and stress, for happiness and to serve everyone with love.

Don’t entertain negative thoughts – kick them up before they come near yourself. Meditate, spend time with positive people, spend time alone, focus on mindful breathing, enjoy the bliss of stasang and pray to the almighty GOD.

For Love,
Anand

www.anandkoti.com

 

Communication – goof-ups

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The biggest challenge for we humans is to have cordial relationship with other humans 😛  – Joke – no way – think for yourself – its a fact. All other challenges are manageable. However, managing every other person apart from the ‘self’ is the most toughest job. 

To maintain a cordial relationship we need to communicate – to communicate we need to LISTEN and TALK.

Many-a-times most of us regret – Oh! I should have not said that!  But then, its too late.
Yes, I too have made blunders on this challenging aspect. With time and practice am improving myself and its not difficult.

Tongue is an awesome muscle and it loves to create ripples. Controlling it is difficult!!! Hey, wait.. what all should we control. Mind – Heart – EGO and now Tongue —> the deadly combination of these makes communication so very complex.

The way we think and respond has got multiple blindspots:

– we communicate something else – but we meant something else
– we think something and say something else
– we think something and write something else
– we mean something and our content means something else
– we think and communicate and ‘ass’u’me’ you understood, what i meant?
– we complicate communication only by thinking too much about what needs to be communicated
– we stop communicating if we are angry, stressed out, pissed off or frustrated
– we stop communicating and again ‘ass’u’me’ you understood, why I did!
– we screwed up something and to avoid circumstance we stop communicating
  phew and the list goes on and on – would love to hear about communication challenges

The complex nature of communication related issues increases as you grow up in life and have more responsibilities to manage. This is a life-long learning process and will end with the last breath of your life 🙂 cheeky is’t it!

This list is exhaustive but every problem has a solution. Listening is the most crucial part of communication; to be clear – listening and understanding the other person before talking needs to be practiced on a regular basis

–  Keep practicing and never give up:-
–  Listen properly before you talk
–  choose the right word to describe your thoughts
–  be calm and composed when you communicate
–  use simple and easy sentences to convey yourself
–  make sure you cross-check on the details conveyed and they understood you properly
–  stop ASSUMING —else you would end up making an ‘ASS’ – ‘U’ – ‘ME’
–  communicate your thoughts then and there and do not delay it. Thoughts communicated during the on-going program, workshops, discussions, situations… are easier to correlate and understand
–  Start practicing meditation and keep your mind calm
–  Do not react – be responsive
–  Think before you talk
–  Learn to accept your mistake and don’t shy way to say Sorry

With a mindful eye, dedicatedly keep practicing. You would soon better up with your own communication style.

Cheers