Communication – goof-ups

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The biggest challenge for we humans is to have cordial relationship with other humans 😛  – Joke – no way – think for yourself – its a fact. All other challenges are manageable. However, managing every other person apart from the ‘self’ is the most toughest job. 

To maintain a cordial relationship we need to communicate – to communicate we need to LISTEN and TALK.

Many-a-times most of us regret – Oh! I should have not said that!  But then, its too late.
Yes, I too have made blunders on this challenging aspect. With time and practice am improving myself and its not difficult.

Tongue is an awesome muscle and it loves to create ripples. Controlling it is difficult!!! Hey, wait.. what all should we control. Mind – Heart – EGO and now Tongue —> the deadly combination of these makes communication so very complex.

The way we think and respond has got multiple blindspots:

– we communicate something else – but we meant something else
– we think something and say something else
– we think something and write something else
– we mean something and our content means something else
– we think and communicate and ‘ass’u’me’ you understood, what i meant?
– we complicate communication only by thinking too much about what needs to be communicated
– we stop communicating if we are angry, stressed out, pissed off or frustrated
– we stop communicating and again ‘ass’u’me’ you understood, why I did!
– we screwed up something and to avoid circumstance we stop communicating
  phew and the list goes on and on – would love to hear about communication challenges

The complex nature of communication related issues increases as you grow up in life and have more responsibilities to manage. This is a life-long learning process and will end with the last breath of your life 🙂 cheeky is’t it!

This list is exhaustive but every problem has a solution. Listening is the most crucial part of communication; to be clear – listening and understanding the other person before talking needs to be practiced on a regular basis

–  Keep practicing and never give up:-
–  Listen properly before you talk
–  choose the right word to describe your thoughts
–  be calm and composed when you communicate
–  use simple and easy sentences to convey yourself
–  make sure you cross-check on the details conveyed and they understood you properly
–  stop ASSUMING —else you would end up making an ‘ASS’ – ‘U’ – ‘ME’
–  communicate your thoughts then and there and do not delay it. Thoughts communicated during the on-going program, workshops, discussions, situations… are easier to correlate and understand
–  Start practicing meditation and keep your mind calm
–  Do not react – be responsive
–  Think before you talk
–  Learn to accept your mistake and don’t shy way to say Sorry

With a mindful eye, dedicatedly keep practicing. You would soon better up with your own communication style.

Cheers

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Spiritual quotient (SQ) or Intelligence quotient (IQ ) or Emotional Quotient (EQ)

Many-a-times it really makes me think, the school-college-university or any other education system does’t have a syllabus which teaches slangs-abusive words! Human values have gone down. How many of you agree that many people vent out anger by using abuse words! This behavior pattern now-a-days is seen among school going children as well. 

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We need to teach the children and yes the teenagers to hear ‘NO’ . Teach them to accept rejection. Parenting has become very demanding and it needs constant nurturing. The generation is on a fast pace. The life-skills needs to be pressed-in tightly in the curriculum and should also be introduced to corporate people.

The change is visible; global warming, temperature rise, rainfall and snow blizzard just to name few. Like-wise the change has also affected human beings at physical, social, emotional, psychological and at spiritual realm. The after-effects are seen and we need to address them. Many changes are required. Dedication, determination and devotion is a must for any individual to keep the ‘self’ protected from any disturbances whatsoever it comes. 

Venting out abusive words to parents, elders and strangers is just not acceptable. It reflects how weak we are on acceptance, our inability to address the issues and lack of people handling skills. 

All the working people would realize [obviously they can – am going to talk about something which relates to money] The skills that were required to get a job – to excel in job and to get promoted in job have changed drastically. The below image would be helpful to upgrade yourself.

bD4ikTLC2_fTr1843WCwYsZFbkCs-VwJBAQu2COD1rE.pngIf these are required in your job – many more changes are required in life-skills, parenting and grooming of the individual. You all are matured and definitely have been going through this. You can either choose to accept and change or suffer. To all those who are working upon this – let me congratulate you for the awareness that you have within.

For Love as always, 

Do you unlock your Brain?

Entrepreneurs have a great challenge in taking out time for the self and family. These are the people who are generally working round the clock or at least their mind is involved in the strategic planning of next move. It generally becomes difficult to find the right choice of time to take a break. I recommend holidays an opportunity to train your human mind and have control over it. For me, human mind is the most unpredictable, practice everyday to keep it in control.

“Get hold of the mind. The mind is like a lake, and every stone that drops into it raises waves. These waves do not let us see what we are.” Swami Vivekananda

Human mind is the most powerful and it can think very deep. Most of the time we are all involved in thinking..

  • What if?
  • Don’t know
  • Why me!!
  • Not me!
  • Noooo!
  • Damn!!!
  • I can’t!
  • Please!
  • Again!
  • Grrrr!
  • Mondayyyy!!!
  • *^%&…and many more

These are the thoughts that tours most of the human mind.

However, if the mind is trained to relax every day, then the thoughts can be changed or rather reprogrammed! Practice Presence

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Sounds fun yaaa! We have to take conscious efforts to forgive others, forgive ourselves think positive. Our mind should give birth thoughts that feels good to the soul and heart. These thoughts should be cultivated.

  • Develop openness
  • Listen to your body and heart
  • Let go… friends its really important that you let go – will help you
  • Forgive yourself and largely to those who hurt you
  • Acceptance
  • Welcome
  • Love
  • Embrace
  • Thankful
  • and the list goes on

Keep practicing these healthy thought process – these would drastically change your life.

Please do ask yourself – Do you do exercise for your mind? Just the same way like you spend time pumping your muscle’s in gym!

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Key to unlock yourself is within you

We generally recommend and train work-alcoholic and otherwise to every individual to practice right set of exercises for the brain/mind. We have personally come across, very few people who spend time for the mind to make it strong and release all the negativity behind.

The system of having holidays in our calendar is one of the best way to follow. Take this opportunity to utilize it wisely and switch off your mind. Spend these holidays with your family and friends. Freak out and let the child inside you enjoy. Once the holidays are over – you will find yourself full of energy, new thoughts, new power and a healthy family 🙂

Love

 

Tonic for better mental health: Karate and Meditation

It’s important that the awareness of karate and its in-depth power is being felt by everyone. Karate is nothing but it teaches you to talk with oneself and give you the authority to protect yourself. It’s an open hand technique which in combinations and perfection is a lethal weapon.

The process of self-realization of what you need is more important. In this race of performance, pressures, compromises, adjustments and stress – we are forgetting our own self! We often tend to loose the focus of ‘who we are’ !  and it is left unattended till we can carry the luggage!

Meditative moments in between the Karate workshops

Competition has increased, humans are now working more like machines and are attempting to be multi-tasking. To this change – we bring you change as well 🙂 at-least to bring the balance within you!

We, at www.anandkoti.com  strongly believe “Every Problem has a Solution”

We have an unique combination of Karate and Spirituality that would be of your interest. The combination is useful to release the stress, strengthen the body -mind and soul. It teaches you how to use your body respectfully and when required it can act like a weapon. We have Self-defense workshop with a mix of #meditation and #karate. We would train you in 3-4 self-defense techniques and also help you relax and get you introduced to your spiritual journey. Your questions about spirituality are also addressed.

Anand Koti focuses upon and promotes the innate values of  Karate [martial arts] – Bonding, Management and Security through his workshops.  These three virtues he has deeply instilled in himself and hopes to deliver the same to his students.

We can only say – Do not miss this opportunity!  Hear one of our participants sharing her views:-

But why do you need to get trained in Self-defense – do you find yourself anywhere in the below mentioned points!

  • Late nights are no more a worry
  • Being alone is hardly problematic
  • Eve teasing is not acceptable, ever
  • Have to wait for police, oh please
  • Domestic violence, not for me
  • My respect, my responsibility

We just don’t focus upon self-defense – we do have special customized camps for daughter-mother and yes of-course corporate workshops too! For more information log on to our website: www.anandkoti.com

Cheers to Life – take it easy!

Why should I provide FREE online self-defense workshop!

It’s important that the awareness of karate and its in-depth power is being felt by everyone. However we still have a lot of reservations and internal defense mechanism of convincing why we want to get trained in Karate.  Karate is nothing but it teaches you to talk with oneself and give you the authority to protect yourself. It’s an open hand technique which in combinations and perfection is a lethal weapon.

Self-defense training

Self-defense training

The good news is Dear Ladies we are providing free online self-defense workshop to only three early applicants. The applicant needs to be female as this workshop is only for women. Self-defense workshop would be a mix of meditation and self-defense. We would train you in 3-4 self-defense techniques and also help you in your spiritual journey.  Your questions about spirituality would also be addressed. We can only say – Do not miss this opportunity! Find out contact details on our website – www.anandkoti.com

But why do you need to get trained in Self-defense – do you find yourself anywhere in the below mentioned points!

  1. LATE NIGHTS ARE NO MORE A WORRY:

A woman who knows about defending herself in face of imminent danger has never to worry about late night shifts or stranded, deserted alleys. She knows to hold herself together in such circumstances and can give her attacker a good one-or-two if the need comes down to that.

  1. BEING ALONE IS HARDLY PROBLEMATIC:

Going out for a late night movie and can’t find a companion? Want to take a trip to your favourite hill station but have no one to accompany you? Bored of the crowd around you and want to take a lonely walk down the countryside? With self-defense techniques by your side, you don’t have to worry about being alone anymore. Just make a plan and you are good to go.

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Self-defense Training

  1. EVE TEASING IS NOT ACCEPTABLE, EVER:

For a woman skilled in self-defense, she never has to keep mum. Whether it’s a lewd comment on the street or a sexual innuendo on the bus she can always speak up for herself without having to worry about the consequences because she knows that she is good enough to handle whatever comes her way.

  1. HAVE TO WAIT FOR POLICE, OH PLEASE:

Instead of waiting for official help to come over, a woman can always be her own help. Be it an attempt to steal her purse or a hand extended to grope her in public, it is often too late by the time police comes over to help. Learning a trick or two in self-defense can always help a woman to save her stuffs, be it money or modesty.

  1. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, NOT FOR ME:

Domestic violence in no form is ever acceptable. But what is better – to prevent it from happening in the first place or to curb it after it has happened? If you are skilled in self-defense, you never have to be a victim and you can start standing up for yourself from the day first finger gets pointed at you.

Self-defense Training

Self-defense Training

  1. MY RESPECT, MY RESPONSIBILITY:

The respect and dignity of women have been at stake for way too long. In spite of matching steps with men in every single field, women are still considered the weaker sex. It’s now time to turn the tables and show the world what women are capable of. Self-defense is no more a choice; in today’s world, it is a necessity.

We look forward to hear you if you think it’s the right time to take the responsibilities of yourself.

Best wishes,

Anand

Karate – 3 way passage for growth [professional, social & emotional]

Every corporate – family – friends and the most important ‘YOU’ ; are all trying to understand the smooth functioning of human mind.  How can it be utilized to the utmost for our own respective needs and benefits. The corporate [big-medium-small] wants more than 100% from their employees; families are looking out for a very cordial relationship within each other; and in this race of life – least priorityis given to ourself . It’s very common to come across every second person who is suffering from Burnout

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With a vision of combining 17 years of martial art practice and 9 years of providing professional training in Karate, Mr. Koti has come up with this workshop that has the in-depth hidden powers of martial arts. We are addressing these issues gracefully.

‘RenewYou‬’ is a holistic approach based on ‪#karate‬ which uses the ‪#‎Discipline‬, ‪#‎Energy‬ and ‪#‎Action‬ of the art to address full continuum of emotional and physical issues of an employee.

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ReNew You by anandkoti

ABOUT ANAND KOTI:
A man of many mantles, Anand Koti likes to identify himself as a social entrepreneur. His vision of combining his 17 years of practice and 9 years of providing professional training in martial arts with his dream of building a better world for women and children to live in was what gave rise to his own personal dream. He strongly believes: ‘every problem has a solution’

A graduate in Industrial Psychology from MSU, he also holds twin Masters in Industrial Relations and Personnel Management from Bhavan’s College of Communication and Management and Health and Hospital Management from Symbiosis Centre of Health Care. Trained by Senzi Pervez Mistri, he is a martial-arts professional, having a second degree Black-belt in Karate and a green belt in Kobudo (weapon systems). The foundation values of martial arts – Bonding, Management and Security, are the three virtues he has deeply instilled in himself and hopes to deliver the same to his students.

Through his various social and humanitarian causes, workshops and a project extremely close to his heart, the Colorss Foundation, Anand Koti has had a positive impact on more than 1000 lives in the past six years. He has trained 850 women and children, out of which 45 children have been differently-abled. Today, his expertise is identified by big corporate banners like ONGC, Nielsen, Vodafone, Reliance Industries and Reliance Township, L&T, Urbounce Gym and many others. Yet to him, it is just the beginning.

Self-defense workshops for women/girls, working women at different Corporate and NGO’s

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for more info contact us – koti@anandkoti.com

Shoshin Nagamine said “Karate may be considered as the conflict within oneself or as a life-long marathon which can be won only through self-discipline, hard training and one’s own creative efforts.”[12]

Karate is a means of self defense. Not many know that it originated not from China or Japan, but from India itself. Legend has it that an ancient prince of Kanchipuram in Tamil Nadu observed the movements of birds and animals while they were engaged in fight and emulated them in human body movements. After experimenting on his slaves and knowing which parts of the body were vulnerable he developed the ancient art form of weaponless self defense. When Bolidharma, a Buddhist monk learnt this in India, he imparted the knowledge to monks in China and trained them.  This was later taken up further by people in Japan.

Kara in Japanese literality means Empty and te means hand.

To most of us who haven’t been trained, the first point of reference comes in the karate kid, a movie about a kid who learns the martial art form to get even with the bullies. The film was well appreciated and is still remembered by most of us and greatly increased popularity of it in the West..  However, karate has real life benefits. Not only to ward of predators does it come in handy, but also to train the body and mind and according to ancient thoughts, achieve “purity of the soul”

In karate, the size or the strength of the person doesn’t matter as much as the skill, speed and power of the moves. Martial arts not only improve bodily strength but also develop self confidence and mental health eliminating the weaknesses of human mind. In today’s world of myriads of tension, it is a great release of negative energy. Rather than offence, it is related to the practice of non violence and only wielded in protection.

Karate can be learnt by anyone in spite of age or sex; be it a school going kid or housewife. In today’s day and age of ongoing violence perpetrated by goons, chain snatchers and eve teasers, it becomes imperative to know the art of defending one self, specially for women.

The director of this solution based company – Mr. Anand Koti has worked for many social causes and community oriented projects before he founded the non-profit Colorss.

Mr. Koti is a passionate and committed teacher of karate. He himself has a training of 17 years and a second degree black belt holder. He now inspires upcoming social entrepreneurs. He takes up specialized classes to teach housewife, working women and school girls how to defend on self. The classes have greatly emancipated and created a great sense of confidence in the women in these troubling times.

For more info – koti@anandkoti.com
~ Sanjana Pal