It is all about Balance!
सुख है तोह दुःख है
दिन है तोह रात्रि है
धूप है तोह छाव है
जीवन है तोह मृत्यु है
मानो तोह है वरना नहीं है
ईनके बीच ही तोह रहना है
अपनालो, जो आता है जैसे आता है
स्थिर करो चंचल मन को
क्योंकि हर रात्रि के बाद सुन्हेरा सबेरा है।
Happiness exists so does sadness,
Day exists so does night,
Bright sunlight exists so does shadow,
Life exists so does Death!
If you believe, it is; else its not,
We have to stay among them
Accept whatever comes in whatever form,
Stabilize your flickering mind,
“caz after every night there is a beautiful day!
Balance keeps you stable. Balance keeps the family strong, motivated and in a positive frame of mind. Balance avoids you to fall down while walking/running. Balance lets you do multiple task at a time. Balance helps you solve complex problems. When your body achieves the appropriate balance then it balances your mind. When your mind is balanced then it connects you with your soul. The more you practice, the more connected you are! It’s a daily process, you can’t achieve or feel it if you do it once in a while. The more you are involved and balanced; the more you can feel the difference. For sustaining this earth the Sun has to rise and then has to set. This is the universal law and henceforth the balance is maintained in the environment, which sustains you, me and other living beings.
The same applies on us as well, if we deviate in any direction we would imbalance ourselves. Balanced mind is crucial to help everyone around and to take appropriate decisions. Understand this clearly, at any given point of time; you are not controlling the situation or the happenings around. Your state of happiness or grief is purely based on your attachment to the particular situation/person.
When I say, balance! You need to be in a normal state of expression towards the surroundings. Not too happy nor too sad. This does’t mean that you are supposed to be inhumane or be heartless. It also does’t mean that you should forget grief or happiness. It’s more about how to respect the happenings around you. Be a witness to the good and bad. Respect them, be a part of it, feel it and at the same time stay composed. Nothing is permanent. If you practice being neutral, you will be able to take appropriate decisions in crucial time. You have to be a leader of your own life. No-one can help you, unless you take the charge. You have the capacity to be happy or sad or depressed. Raise yourself for others and for being a reason to show others the right path.
Attachment is the root cause of pain and agony. Attachment is when you start depending on someone. Their day to day things are more important to you than anything else. You tend to get hurt every time when the person with-whom you are attached is not doing good. This builds up frustration inside you and at some-point of time it irritates the other.. Realize how you are getting confused at a conscious or unconscious level. You are getting trapped in your mind and within your thoughts. You are trying to capture what is not yours! You are trying to have the ownership of someone else’s life. To be free and to have balance; you have to let go on attachments, you have to set free, you have to respect the other individuals and at the same time start focusing on your own-self. You need to love yourself and face your fears. Understand you need to have a balance in life.
You have to evaluate and improve yourself. This is an everyday task [I have recently started working on this.] You have to get better with time. If you are dependent and weak; you are making things very difficult for your ownself and for your loved ones.. Don’t find reasons to justify your situation. Stop being judgmental and look inside yourself. It’s always about your mental health; the moment you are balanced and composed. You will be in a position to handle all the situations gracefully.
I often encourage people around me to learn life lessons from animals and birds. They are someone who can help us learn how to deal life situations. Birds with their beaks make nest for their family, they struggle to find the right set of stalk to make the nest. Tirelessly they put all the efforts. After the egg is laid, the bird protects and then takes care of the hatchling. Tirelessly feeds it and teaches all the required skills for survival. When baby bird is ready to leave the nest. The mother bird leaves them alone and never returns back. They don’t get worried about their nest nor about the hard work they had put in to raise the baby bird. Its only the pure unconditional love – nature-nurture.
Acceptance is what we need to learn. Every individual has his/her share of up’s and downs. We have to acknowledge, respect, accept and give freedom so that they grow with confidence, with more power and the gap is filled. Give them space to grow and learn their own mechanism. You are the best judge of your situation to understand when and how to have a balance! Learn it and follow it.